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Loving is About Behaviors
It has been a year now of little behaviors ... behaviors that show consideration towards our spouse ... behaviors that say I love you, that you are my priority and the most important person in my life.
I will be taking a break from blogging for awhile. If you haven't yet read my book, A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage, I hope you will: www.amazon.com/Short-Guide-Happy-Marriage-Long-Lasting/dp/1604330910/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1238000250&sr=1-1
And let me know what you think about it!
Any thoughts or questions, I'd love to hear from you @ sharongilo@gmail.com
Thanks for your interest ...
Wishing you all a very happy marriage!
Sharon
Relax your partner's BODY!
My post for next week, when I may not have computer access!
Do you know where in your partner's body the pain of stress and anxiety end up? Is it in the back, the shoulders ... or maybe a nagging headache. When you notice it has been a particularly difficult day or the end of a tough, long week, what can you do to help them relax?
Help Your Spouse
Okay, the unofficial end of summer has come and the busy school year has begun. Everyone in your household is getting back into a more structured schedule full of activities with little downtime. One of the nicest things a spouse can do is to just selflessly PITCH IN when something needs doing: change a diaper, make the lunches for the kids, walk the dog, empty the dishwasher, throw the clothes in the dryer ... the list goes on and on ...
ADD A TOUCH OF ROMANCE
Add a touch of romance to a dinner at home you've managed to find the time for -- just the two of you. Even if it's been a long day, a long week and you decide on take-out -- light a candle, set the table with your wedding glasses, put on some sentimental music, and ignore all the phones! And relax ...
Make It Happen For Your Partner ...
For most, it's a long, holiday weekend coming up ... the unofficial end of summer. For many of us the time has flown and we just haven't done all that we would have liked over the summer months, whether work or play. Consider something that your partner had so wanted to enjoy or accomplish that just didn't happen -- can you help make it happen over this long weekend?
TAKE HOLD OF YOUR SPOUSE'S ...
Take hold of your spouse's hand when they least expect it ... such a small gesture, but so comforting and so caring ...
A Quickie in the Kitchen!
So, when did you last have a quickie in your kitchen? Seize the right moment when your spouse would enjoy!
How Do You Sound To Your Spouse!
Give some thought this week to how you sound to your spouse ... we all have heard how often it is not what we say, but how we say it, and we've all gotten feedback from our spouse on how we might do it better. Consider that feedback and focus on your weakness -- is it an angry tone, a curt voice, a hurried impatience, a sarcastic response ... change it up, listen for the difference ...
Listening is Love
Go out of your way this week to really listen to your spouse. Put down the phone, the Blackberry ... stop glancing down at the newspaper headline that just caught your attention as you leaned over the counter ... clear your mind ... and really focus on what's being said by your spouse. Good listening is not easy, it really takes our full concentration. It is a loving behavior worthy of becoming more the habit than the exception ...
It's Hot, Hot, Hot
For most of the country the heat has been record breaking ... give your spouse a break to cool off, be alone and take a little time for themselves. Make it easy for them to go for a swim, lay back in the air-conditioned bedroom with a good book, sit back with a cold beer ... whatever feels good at the end of a long, very hot day.
